Dear Divorce Coach

A Practical Guide to Managing Passwords, Devices, and Digital Access Across Two Homes

This article outlines the major categories of decision-making co-parents must address when nesting in the same home, with specific attention to boundaries, rules, limits, and financial considerations.

Dear Divorce Coach: When every conversation with your ex turns into an argument, it can leave you feeling defeated and exhausted. But calm isn’t something your co-parent gives you—it’s something you build and protect.

In this article, I share practical tools to help you stay grounded, communicate clearly, and keep your kids out of the crossfire. You’ll learn how to regulate your nervous system, use the BIFF method for difficult conversations, and stop reacting to every emotional landmine.

Read the full piece on the Dear Divorce Coach blog or on Substack to learn how to create peace, even in the middle of chaos.

Dear Divorce Coach: Just asking how to grow together means you’re stepping out of the “who’s right” trap and into the “how do we make this work” zone. That’s a growth mindset in action.

After divorce, it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost more than a relationship. You’ve lost parts of yourself. This is the exact moment when investing in yourself matters most. Small, intentional choices can reset your identity, rebuild your confidence, and open the door to a future you get to design.

Dear Divorce Coach: Disconnection in a relationship rarely happens overnight. More often, it is what the Gottmans call the slow fade—a gradual loss of attention, tenderness, and curiosity. The good news is that reconnection can also happen in small, intentional steps. From noticing hidden bids for connection, to creating rituals of closeness, to leading with curiosity instead of criticism, couples can slowly rebuild the bridge back to each other.