After divorce, it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost more than a relationship. You’ve lost parts of yourself. This is the exact moment when investing in yourself matters most. Small, intentional choices can reset your identity, rebuild your confidence, and open the door to a future you get to design.
Dear Divorce Coach: Disconnection in a relationship rarely happens overnight. More often, it is what the Gottmans call the slow fade—a gradual loss of attention, tenderness, and curiosity. The good news is that reconnection can also happen in small, intentional steps. From noticing hidden bids for connection, to creating rituals of closeness, to leading with curiosity instead of criticism, couples can slowly rebuild the bridge back to each other.
Dear Divorce Coach: After divorce, everyone says, “You’ll rebuild.” But what does that even look like when you’re emotionally drained, co-parenting, and trying to figure out who you are now?
In this heartfelt letter, Dear Divorce Coach responds to a reader standing in that vulnerable, uncertain space between what was and what’s next. Through storytelling and practical tools, this post offers 10 meaningful steps to help you begin again. From setting boundaries with your ex to rediscovering your passions, rebuilding your finances, and learning to rest without guilt.
Whether you’re in the thick of co-parenting or just trying to get through the day without crying in the carpool line, this isn’t a how-to. It’s a gentle map for your next chapter.
Summer: the season of sunshine, beach days, ice cream trucks… and the special kind of logistical chaos that co-parenting can bring when school is out.
Dear Divorce Coach: Co-parenting can feel heavy, but it doesn’t have to be. Discover simple self-care strategies to manage stress, protect your peace, and support your well-being – for you and your child.
Dear Divorce Coach: Struggling with disconnection in your marriage? Discover why intimacy in relationships matters, what causes sexless marriages, and how to reconnect emotionally and physically.